eej ko lahara aayo bari lai! Haritalika Teej, one of the merriest celebrations for Hindu ladies in Nepal, is less than a week absent, with this year’s celebration slated for coming Friday.
Teej is customarily watched by spouses by keeping a quick for their husband’s long and sound life. Hence, this celebration summons pictures of hitched ladies dressed in shinning ruddy, bangled wrists, vermillion on hair and beaded neckbands (potey) watching a strict waterless fast.
Some single ladies and young ladies quick as well, asking for an perfect partner.
However, as of late the celebration has experienced a obvious move in its recognition. Breaking the conventional standards of Teej, which fundamentally rotates around ladies, a few men are setting unused patterns.
They are the ones who unobtrusively take part in the celebration but are never seen reveled in the feasts or transparently recognize their interest.
Today, numerous men accept in twisting the rules by giving company to their spouses and ladies of their family in Teej celebration, something that was not considered prior. Kiran KC, ingenious comedian famously known as ‘Rata Makai’, is among the few men who watch quick amid Teej.
Speaking to The Rising Nepal, KC shared that he has been fasting for over 25 years.
“My spouse utilized to quick on Teej without indeed drinking water. One day, I figured it out how this lady, who was once a stranger to me, has been watching such a strict quick for my wellbeing and longevity.”
“She cleared out her family to be with me, showered me with adore, and took care of my assets, my family, and my relatives, all for my well-being,” he said.
“That’s when it hit me—I ought to be fasting for her long life instep. Without her, my life wouldn’t be as brilliant. So, I begun fasting for her. Since at that point, we quick together,” KC added.
KC reviewed being called a ‘Joitingrey’ (henpecked) by individuals for fasting on Teej. Around 25 a long time prior, after adoring Master Shiva at Pashupatinath on Teej, a TV correspondent inquired if he was fasting as well.
When he said yes, somebody in the swarm called him ‘Henpecked’.
He included, “And I reacted, so a spouse who fasts for his spouse is called ‘Joitingrey,’ but a spouse who drinks liquor whereas his spouse is fasting is considered perfect? The lady was cleared out speechless.”
Pramod Kharel, a eminent artist, shared that he is moreover willing to quick on Teej.
In 2022, when his spouse was sick and incapable to watch the quick, he watched the quick on her sake.
He needed to proceed this convention, but for the past two a long time, Kharel has not watched Teej.
Similarly, Murari Upadhyay, a 40-year-old man from Dhumbarahi, is frequently called ‘henpecked’ by his relatives and neighbors for fasting amid Teej and making a difference his companion with family chores.
Upadhyay, who has watched Teej fasting for the past 14 a long time, shared that his travel started when his spouse was pregnant.
He said, “She needed to proceed fasting indeed whereas pregnant, but I didn’t allow it. Seeing her despondent, I chosen to quick on her sake, promising to do it for both her and our baby.”
Since at that point, Upadhyay and his spouse have been celebrating Teej together. He moreover goes with his spouse to the sanctuary.
Pradeep Lamsal, a 45-year-old yoga educators from Budhanilkantha, is another man who has ventured absent from conventional traditions by watching Teej fasting for the past eight years.
He begun fasting on Teej in 2016 when his spouse, Kalpana, was enduring from ulcers. “That year, she was exceptionally sick and experiencing treatment. It was the to begin with time she couldn’t quick, and she was heartbroken,” he recalled.
Seeing her in trouble, Lamsal chosen to take on the quick for her wellbeing and long life. Since at that point, he has proceeded to quick on her sake. Kalpana’s gastric issues still anticipate her from fasting.
Lamsal accepts that men can moreover be a portion of this convention. “If my spouse can quick for my wellbeing and long life, why can’t I do the same for her?” he said.
Not as it were hitched men but moreover a few single men watch the Teej quick for the well-being of their families.
Aadesh Mishra, 28, from Patan, has been watching the Teej quick since 2009 when he was in review nine. He started fasting since his mother continuously watched the Teej quick without drinking water all day, which made her ill.
Mishra described that he utilized to encourage her to drink water or take medication, but she denied.
“One year, I chosen to quick myself to appear her how preposterous it was. Shockingly, my mother didn’t halt fasting; instep, I continued,” he laughed.
Mishra presently fasts for his family and mother. When inquired if he plans to proceed this hone after his marriage, he said, “A wife’s life span ought to be as vital to a spouse as a husband’s is to a spouse. If Teej is implied to guarantee that, at that point I am committed to fasting to guarantee my wife’s long and sound life.”
What Hindu sacred texts say almost men watching Teej Quick Acharya Yadhu Nandan Bhardhwaj, a Sanskrit researcher, expressed that whereas the Teej quick is essentially for ladies, it is considered similarly advantageous for both men and ladies.
Hindu sacred writings do not confine men from taking part in the quick, he said, including, “Teej quick is not fair for hitched ladies. If it were, at that point the celebration, which started with Goddess Parbati’s fasting, would as it were be watched by single ladies and young ladies. She was single when she attempted the quick and starkness with a wish to have Ruler Shiva as her husband.”
According to Acharya Bhardhwaj, the merits of the Teej quick do not naturally exchange to the spouse when spouse watches the quick.
“The sacred writings state that the individual who fasts is the essential beneficiary of its advantage. Be that as it may, if somebody wishes to share the merits of their quick, the individual with whom they wish to share may get a few of those merits, such as ladies or men fasting to look for the life span and great wellbeing of their partners,” he added.
“Therefore, anybody can watch the quick, and whoever does, whether male or female, will be the essential beneficiary of its benefits,” said Bhardhwaj.
Culture expert’s take on the issue Prof. Dr. Beena Poudyal, resigned head of Tribhuvan University’s Central Division of Nepalese History, Culture, and Archaic exploration, said past the conventional fasting by spouses, numerous men are presently taking an interest in the Teej quick.
Some men were watching the quick in put of their weak spouses, whereas others joined their accomplices in the custom, advertising bolster and companionship, she included. Concurring to her, it is more advantageous for both spouse and spouse to quick and perform revere together than either of them doing it alone.
“The devout sacred writings, such as the Shiva Puran, Skanda Puran, and Bishnu Puran, specify that aficionados who quick and adore can pick up more noteworthy merits when these ceremonies are performed together with their spouse,” said Dr. Poudyal.
Furthermore, larger part of Master Shiva’s aficionados, counting Nandi, Bhringi, and other individuals of Shiva’s escort, are men.
“His aficionados are empowered to offer revere all through the year, so there is no reason men cannot take an interest in the Teej fast,” she included.
Women’s viewpoints: A steady part Meena Parajuli, spouse of Murari Upadhyay, shared how blessed she feels when her spouse fasts for her and their daughters’ well-being.
“This is what I call shared commitment and shared regard in a relationship,” she included.
Kalpana Lamsal, spouse of Pradeep Lamsal, shared her considerations on her husband’s support in the Teej fasting, saying, “I feel exceptionally uncommon when my spouse keeps quick for my well-being and too includes regard I have for my husband.”
Laxmi Khanal, advocate and essayist, said that men might too quick for their spouses. If a lady can quick for the prosperity of her spouse, at that point why can’t men do the same for their wife?
This would make their spouses feel uncommon and develop their connection, she said, including, “Men can demonstrate the significance of each other’s part as two wheels of the same chariot by making this celebration more uncommon for them.”
Even if they can’t quick, they can compose a Darr party, offer assistance around the house and deliver them space for celebrations to make the event uncommon, she included. As the celebration advances, it illustrates a more comprehensive celebration that perceives the assorted ways people can respect the soul of the event.
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